I recently ran across a meme on Facebook that said “Sis check yourself, sometimes the problem is you.” I cringed after I read it because it hit home and it hurt, but then again, the truth normally does.
I went through most of life blaming failed relationships and failed friendships on the other party involved. It was so easy to not be accountable for my actions and words. The miscommunication, my own toxic thinking, the feeling of rejection and my insecurities (just to name a few) all played a part in the mishaps. You see, these are the things that I was too embarrassed to admit; things that I was too ashamed to expose.
The gag is, all those different things were fed by feelings and if you don’t know, feelings constantly change. The Bible says in Matthew 7:5, to cast the beam out of our own eye and then will we see clearly to remove the mote out of our brother’s eye. In today’s lingo, we would say “Sweep in front of your own front door before picking up garbage off of your neighbors welcome mat.” So what does this really mean?
It took for me to experience mishap after mishap, strife in every area of life, bumping my head into the wall, etc. to realize that I was the common denominator; that something (or some things) needed to change. I FINALLY began to understand that no matter what was said or done to me, I was only responsible for how I reacted. It hurt but it also humbled me.
It takes maturity to really sit and take a look at the person you are. God is not impressed with how we dress, how we are able to balance life and work or how successful we are at business. He looks at the heart. What’s hidden in your heart?
Intimately,
Yaz
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